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How Long Are We to Allow Conflict to Linger?

How does one apply the "do not go to bed while you are angry" Scripture? "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. (Eph. 4:26, NIV) Are we, as a rule, to "Stay up all night and fight it it out"? William Congreve says, "Never go to bed angry, stay up and fight." Alternatively is there a higher principal at work here? Personally, I think there is a greater principle at work that calls for wisdom in handling conflict. In conflict, I believe you must acknowledge there is a problem, offer the hurt to The Lord and agree to discuss this matter when "the emotion dies down." (Preferably with the next 24-72 hours) Even then, the combatants must agree to use principals of communication and active listening rather than "let me tell you how wrong you were/are." Consider the following Lifeskills moment to see if there is any encouraging word present for you:

All Problems Have an ANSWER and Can Generally be RESOLVED Within 72 Hours
When a problematic situation occurs, we are often upset and anxious and lose our ability to see the situation clearly. This is when we need to take a step back and realize that all problems have an answer and we can take 72 hours to sit with the situation. If we give ourselves 72 hours, our adrenaline will come down and we will be able to spend time figuring out our feelings and how to best go about getting our needs met in a healthy way. The flip side of this is if we do not resolve the situation within 72 hours, it will turn into shame. (Lifeskills)
What do you think? What does Scripture teach concerning conflict?


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Currently serving as the Senior Pastor and Developer of New Beginnings Fellowship in Lawrenceville, GA.
Pastor Screen has served as a member of the South Atlantic District Executive Committee (DEXCOM) which oversees 100 Churches in GA., S.C., and N.C. for nine years.  He also served on the South Atlantic District Multiplication Team for 12 years which is responsible for Church Planting in GA., S.C., and N.C.


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