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The Primary Lesson I Learned from My Mother-In-Law

1 John 4:7-11 (NKJV) 

7  Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 8  He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. 9  In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. 10  In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 11  Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.  

In August my mother-in-law, Veratene Frazier, was hospitalized because of severe back pain symptoms. At the time, little did we know that she would be diagnosed with colon cancer that would rapidly spread through body and take her life in less than a month’s time. She will be laid to rest today. Veratene Frazier will be sorely missed!

As I have reflected over Vera’s life and her impact on hundreds of people, one theme has manifested. She loved God, loved her family, love the kids she taught, loved her church and loved life. In short, Vera was good at loving. She loved well!

 Many today use the word love in a flippant manner. I love cars, steaks, shoes, my house, my clothes, etc., etc. However, none of the above is an adequate handling of the word love. John Powell, in his book, Why I am Afraid to Love, gives an excellent definition of love. To summarize, Powell says that true love demand a “forgetfulness” of self for the purpose of bringing happiness and fulfillment to others. Powell notes that this forgetfulness can and often does include the foregoing of personal convenience and emotional satisfaction. As I read this, I came to the conclusion that this was my mother-in-law’s secret and the real legacy she left.

Additionally, as I juxtaposed my life with Vera’s I was suddenly struck with the fact that I need to humble myself and practice self-forgetfulness for the purpose of bringing a smile to the hearts of those whom I engage with on a daily basis. I need to do this even if it means forgoing of personal conveniences and emotional satisfaction. So, as of today, I offer myself up afresh to the Lord to love in and through me. I know that He will, for He is a God of love. All He needs is a willing vessel.


Prayer: I am willing Lord to be a lover; however, this can only happen by your grace.  Lord, any area of my life where there is the slightest hint of unwillingness, touch these areas and bring them into alignment with Your Spirit.

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Currently serving as the Senior Pastor and Developer of New Beginnings Fellowship in Lawrenceville, GA.
Pastor Screen has served as a member of the South Atlantic District Executive Committee (DEXCOM) which oversees 100 Churches in GA., S.C., and N.C. for nine years.  He also served on the South Atlantic District Multiplication Team for 12 years which is responsible for Church Planting in GA., S.C., and N.C.


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